neurotic Iraqi wife
September 23, 2004
Before and After.....
BEFORE MARRIAGE:
Your heart flutters everytime they talk this way. You believe every word and you tend to dream of a beautiful house filled with children running around, where even their noisy sounds makes you happy and serene...You then thank God that he has sent you someone so loving and understanding....
AFTER MARRIAGE:
Another what?Another line???Helloooooo, Its me you're talking to, your angel, the woman of your dreams, you wanna hang up on me just like that??? hellooooo, yuhoooo, what happened to your nice words?what happened to your promises of never leaving me alone???Where did all the love and care disappear to???
Isnt it funny how men can change so easily between the BEFORE and AFTER??? Wow Im amazed....They change their attitudes just as easily as they change their underwear(dunno if Im fortunate, cuz HUBBY changes his undies everyday). Its like they undergo one of those before and after transformation programs. And there in mid sentence somewhere between the "you are over reacting", and the "stop complaining" you get "You know I love you, just be patient".
Yup, I know you do sweetie, but hey what happened to the guy with the sweet tongue???Has he been kidnapped and got replaced by you, the "other" twin???
Can we please please, pretty please go back to the Before and forget about the After???
- I love you, I cant wait to spend all my life with you.
- You are the fresh air that I breathe.
- You are my destiny, where have you been all these years?
- You are the angel that God sent to me from the heavens.
- I will never hurt you, I will never leave you alone.
- I cant wait to come back home and see you there standing in the kitchen(hmm why is it always the kitchen they envisage).
- Lets have children straight away, I want your kids.
- I was dead before I met you and now Im alive.
- I will do anything to make you happy, you just name it.
- I will be anything to make you happy.
- You can change my bad habbits.
- I want you by my side always and forever.
- (Their other phone rings, they ignore it, saying"oh let them wait, I'm talking to the most important person, now")
Your heart flutters everytime they talk this way. You believe every word and you tend to dream of a beautiful house filled with children running around, where even their noisy sounds makes you happy and serene...You then thank God that he has sent you someone so loving and understanding....
AFTER MARRIAGE:
- I am "attached" to the country.
- Our life together can wait. I have to do this, its my dream.
- You have to support my ambitions.
- Children can wait, thats not a problem.
- You are over reacting.
- This is Me, you can never change the way I am.
- Stop complaining we still have a long way to live together.
- I do love you but Im coping alone.....
- (Their other phone rings, they say"I have to go now, I got another line")
Another what?Another line???Helloooooo, Its me you're talking to, your angel, the woman of your dreams, you wanna hang up on me just like that??? hellooooo, yuhoooo, what happened to your nice words?what happened to your promises of never leaving me alone???Where did all the love and care disappear to???
Isnt it funny how men can change so easily between the BEFORE and AFTER??? Wow Im amazed....They change their attitudes just as easily as they change their underwear(dunno if Im fortunate, cuz HUBBY changes his undies everyday). Its like they undergo one of those before and after transformation programs. And there in mid sentence somewhere between the "you are over reacting", and the "stop complaining" you get "You know I love you, just be patient".
Yup, I know you do sweetie, but hey what happened to the guy with the sweet tongue???Has he been kidnapped and got replaced by you, the "other" twin???
Can we please please, pretty please go back to the Before and forget about the After???
6 Comments:
Yes we do tend to change THE 'tude, however, it seems that I should go warn MY Hub NOT to check this site so that I'll be in the clear for some more time!
Lady, with all do respect, do you really want a slobbery, messy, disheveled crawler that wakes up only at 4:30AM and cries his/her lungs out till they bleed? something that poops up mountains of crap faster than you can change his/her underwear?
Lady, I know you want children bad, ALL females tend to do that, thats why girls play with dolls from the beginning! However, Take it from me, wait till your husband gets back home from iraq (iraq is not fit to call it a HOME) and spend an extra year or two enjoying life and each other's company, cuz when the crawler is in the house, you will NOT have time for anything else, the flame will wither, and you will have a family 100% like ALL iraqi families around you, father works, comes back tired as hell, yells at the stay-at-home mother because he has a headache and the child is crying, she yells at the child to shut him/her up, the child gets scared and cries further louder, a VICUOS CYCLE.. This applies to ALL IRAQI families, esp. the young ones, who didn't have ENOUGH time to understand each other fully, didn't explore each other's strengths and weaknessess to the fullest.
Don't worry that much, Your Hub will come back safe and sound, Bad things don't happen to good people.
Smile please, it will help ease my burden.
13out.
Lol anaRki13, wallah you made me laugh. rajlee ib deera oo anee ib deera,hi shaghla itkhabbul illee mayitkhabbal...And Im already a loony..I WANT MY HUBBYYYYYYYYYYYYYY BACKKKKKKKKKKKKK NOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW....Did my voice reach you in aladhamiya or not yet???
Yes it did! sorry for being late but i had phone probz! Glad to make you smile!
cheers!
13out.
(have to sleep, dizzy dizzy college saturday!)
Neurotic Wife,
If your husband was to write a before and after list about you, what would it look like?
Dear Lady, sorry I didn't read the previous post, and I unknowingly added to your worries. I just read it now and i got a somewhat clearer picture..
What your husband said and what he is doing is only normal for iraqis his age, i dont reckon he's much older than me (less than 10yr diff.)we belong to the same generation and hence we probably have the same thought patterns..
Boys (Men) are like that, we are ALWAYS trying to prove ourselves further and further, trying to satisfy our ego, that small voice in the back of our minds telling us if we didnt manage to do it then we are not men.. and the worse things get the more we rejoice.. this is only normal.
I have to say though, your husband got guts.. I mean I've seen my share of death and destruction but NO WAY IN BLUE HELL will i stay here more than i'm FORCED TO..
I have a paradox here:
Although your husband should get his priorities straight (loved ones ALWAYS come first, look who's talking, i've ditched my share of heartaches in order to graduate college.. chicken, but i graduated) But also, If good people like your husband (and i should be there too)leave iraq for the rabble that are salivating for the thought of ruling this dump, this country will never be more than that.. ONE HUGE LANDFILL.
This country needs all the help it can get, but at the same time it can bite the hand that offers help.
ONLY IN IRAQ.
Your husband (although he might sound tough and unaffected by the things happening around) needs all the emotional support you can give.. stay with him during his "thing" and when this is over, you will have him by your side for life..
Anyways, I apologise again for missing the previous post (the phone call) earlier and all my intrusions..
do not worry and do NOT believe the news, most of the time its 100% false and the arabic channels tend to make things much worse than they really are, i'm sure that your husband is always careful, and that soon you will see him home safe!
cheer up and goodnight.
13out.
Ihath,lol, I am too frightened to divulge into my before and after, but I can assure you, I never wanted him to go to Iraq and he knows it. I guess I have become more emotional after we got married....
Jeneva, I guess most Iraqi men are like that.... They tend to take their wives for granted...Grrrrr
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